Mother's Day 2019 & Engagement Ring Update!

Sunday, May 12, 2019

A few months ago, my grandmother gifted my mother’s jewelry to me. Her jewelry was something Grams would mention here and there, ever since I was a little girl, and how I would one day inherit it when I’m older. That “one day” seemed distant for a very long time, until a few months ago, when Grams ambushed me with it one evening. As much as I tried to hide it, receiving things that belonged to my mother (for the first time) was overwhelmingly overbearing—for once in my life, she felt like a real person to me. Losing my mother was definitely a tragedy for my family, and growing up, she was rarely brought up (as I kept all of my curiosities inside). Most of my mother’s jewelry was either too small for me or things I would never wear. I knew I wanted to get creative with some of her pieces, and that’s where my engagement ring comes into play!

My mother had this one flower-looking ruby ring that had smaller diamonds around it. I was especially drawn to the marquise-shaped diamonds, and I was able to clearly envision them on my engagement ring. Since my engagement ring is originally from @considerthewldflwrs (based in Tennessee), I wanted to work with someone more local and trustworthy, and so I reached out to @ejjewelry, the maker of both Francesca's and Rebekah's rings. When I met Joyce, I immediately knew I was in good hands—she is such a sweetheart and shows that she genuinely cares. If you know me, you know I can be very specific when it comes to design, and she dealt with all of my back-and-forth shenanigans. I wanted to avoid recreating the entire ring to save on costs (and because I designed it, and didn't want to change the whole thing). Since I’m super picky when it comes to prongs, it was hard for me to agree on something to add to the original setting on the engagement ring. We decided to go with similar prongs as the center stone, when I had the sudden idea of placing the stones INSIDE the band... I drew everything out for her, and we were both on the same page, but also nervous because 1) she’s going to hand-carve holes into the band, and 2) we couldn’t find inspiration pictures of this being done before, so it’s a little scary to go all in. I gave her the green light... and it turned out SO beautiful. We were both shocked. It was better than what we had imagined.

Thank you so much for taking on this special project, Joyce—this could not have happened without you. And thank you, Michael, for letting me do this.

In elementary school, I secretly dreaded Mother’s Day, especially during arts and crafts when we were all making cards for our mothers out of construction paper. I have vivid memories making cards with “mom” on them (knowing I could’ve written “grandma” or “aunt” but I didn’t want to seem even more different than I felt). Each year, I would just rip it up and throw it in the trash when I got home. It was a holiday that I could not wait for to be over. It wasn’t until much later in life where I learned to appreciate the core women in my life—Grams, Aunt Tracy (aka Britney’s mom), and my step-mom (whom I consider my own). Thank you for your love even when I don’t see it. Happy Mother’s Day to y’all and all the mamas and soon-to-be mamas out there!

My heart also goes out to those who aren’t having an easy today—whether it’s because you’ve lost her, you've never met her, you don’t have a solid relationship with her, this may be your last year with her, or you’ve been longing to be one—you’re not alone, and I’m sending you extra love and prayers! For now, I’ll be anticipating the moment I become a mother, the first year where Mother’s Day will have an entirely new meaning for me.


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